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01-19-2005, 02:52 AM

Skyhooks wrote:
> Maggie wrote:
> >
> > > 4) When one is in their 50's they do not necessarily want a baby
> > > around; having a child hit puberty when one is retiring is not
> > > necessarily a good thing.>
> > > - rick
> >
> > What a scary thought. If you have a baby at 45 you will have a
> > teenager when you are in your sixties......Oh my God. I hardly made
it
> > through my kids teenage years and I got married when I was a mere
> > child. I was in my thirties when they were in the hell of puberty.
> > Early forties for my last one going through puberty. If I had one
> > going through all that now that I am 50, I think I might shoot
myself.
> > I want grandchildren. The kind you get to spoil and send home with
> > their parents. It doesn't get any better than that.
> > Maggie.
>
> The sad thing is a lot of the "grandparents" today in their later 50s
> and 60s are (now) saddled (not quite the word I want to use) to raise
> their grandchildren because their own child(ren) didn't or couldn't
> properly support and care for their children (the grandkids), or
perhaps
> the middle generation refused to accept/honor responsibilty,
> whatever(?). In most cases, it's the child(ren) who suffers.
>
> Unfortunately, it seems that more and more "grandparents" now have to
> raise their grandkids because their own children are unable to
properly
> care for them???

scarey thought/times.
>
> Skyhooks
> hmardis "a h t " ui uc "dau ght" e d u

I think its quite unfair of you to lump an entire generation into this
category. Not one of my friends are (saddled?) with their
grandchildren. Most of my friends have children that are educated, well
informed, and responsible. My daughter is going to be married. She has
her Masters in Counseling, he has his Masters in Business and a very
lucrative career. If anyone gets saddled with anything it will be them
and how they will care for their parents when they are ready for the
"home". My generation (those in our 50's) are more involved in taking
care of elderly parents with failing health than they are with being
saddled with grandchildren. Grandchildren are delightful. I believe
the generation of young people today are waiting until they finish
college, becoming financially stable and they are having children in
their late twenties or early thirties. As opposed to my generation
having kids at 20. I do not believe in waiting too long to have
children and I don't believe you should have them in your late teens.
Both bring their problems. This generation is a generation that seems
to have it right. Finish college, establish yourself, then start a
family when you are in your late twenties. You are not too young and
immature, yet your not so old that you will look like their
grandparents when they are teenagers. I admire this generation. I think
they have it right. And I can't wait to be saddled with some
grandchildren while I am still young enough to really enjoy them.' I
would never have wanted my daughter married with kids at 20, yet I am
hoping she does not wait until 40 either.
Maggie.

01-19-2005, 02:52 AM	#89 (permalink)
Maggie Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Parental responsibility was RE: vasectomy recovery time Skyhooks wrote: > Maggie wrote: > > > > > 4) When one is in their 50's they do not necessarily want a baby > > > around; having a child hit puberty when one is retiring is not > > > necessarily a good thing.> > > > - rick > > > > What a scary thought. If you have a baby at 45 you will have a > > teenager when you are in your sixties......Oh my God. I hardly made it > > through my kids teenage years and I got married when I was a mere > > child. I was in my thirties when they were in the hell of puberty. > > Early forties for my last one going through puberty. If I had one > > going through all that now that I am 50, I think I might shoot myself. > > I want grandchildren. The kind you get to spoil and send home with > > their parents. It doesn't get any better than that. > > Maggie. > > The sad thing is a lot of the "grandparents" today in their later 50s > and 60s are (now) saddled (not quite the word I want to use) to raise > their grandchildren because their own child(ren) didn't or couldn't > properly support and care for their children (the grandkids), or perhaps > the middle generation refused to accept/honor responsibilty, > whatever(?). In most cases, it's the child(ren) who suffers. > > Unfortunately, it seems that more and more "grandparents" now have to > raise their grandkids because their own children are unable to properly > care for them??? scarey thought/times. > > Skyhooks > hmardis "a h t " ui uc "dau ght" e d u I think its quite unfair of you to lump an entire generation into this category. Not one of my friends are (saddled?) with their grandchildren. Most of my friends have children that are educated, well informed, and responsible. My daughter is going to be married. She has her Masters in Counseling, he has his Masters in Business and a very lucrative career. If anyone gets saddled with anything it will be them and how they will care for their parents when they are ready for the "home". My generation (those in our 50's) are more involved in taking care of elderly parents with failing health than they are with being saddled with grandchildren. Grandchildren are delightful. I believe the generation of young people today are waiting until they finish college, becoming financially stable and they are having children in their late twenties or early thirties. As opposed to my generation having kids at 20. I do not believe in waiting too long to have children and I don't believe you should have them in your late teens. Both bring their problems. This generation is a generation that seems to have it right. Finish college, establish yourself, then start a family when you are in your late twenties. You are not too young and immature, yet your not so old that you will look like their grandparents when they are teenagers. I admire this generation. I think they have it right. And I can't wait to be saddled with some grandchildren while I am still young enough to really enjoy them.' I would never have wanted my daughter married with kids at 20, yet I am hoping she does not wait until 40 either. Maggie.