Longer rides not with husband? - Page 3 - Cycling Mob: Road Cycling, Mountain Biking and More

06-10-2004, 11:40 PM

Both Mike and Tom offered solid advice. I'd only add that Mike is 100% right-
encouraging one's spouse often sounds like nagging. It used to take my wife
about 25 miles or so before she would tell me that my encouraging, "Pedal,
dammit! Pedal!", wasn't inspiring her but hey.... once I learned it failed to
inspire I stopped saying it so give me a *little* credit. <g>
Tom's right as well. If you change your plans to accommodate your husband's
lack of saddle time you'll be unhappy and he'll feel guilty. If you don't,
he'll be unhappy and *you* will feel guilty. Compromise will just make both of
you unhappy and guilt ridden. If I found my wife and myself in the situation
you describe I think I'd just stick with my original plan and do the longer
ride solo. I'd deal with the guilt later.

Regards,
Bob Hunt

06-10-2004, 11:52 PM

On Fri, 11 Jun 2004 03:33:50 GMT, "Claire Petersky"
<[Only registered and activated users can see links. ]> wrote:

>
>Yeah. One of my thoughts is that the kids will be in a drama production the
>two weeks before RSVP, so he'll have another opportunity to do extra riding,
>while they're in rehearsal. He still has a chance of doing the necessary
>training. August is still a ways off.

August!? That's over 60 training days and 600miles!! No problem.

-B
Let us know how the ride goes, details, we want details. ;-p

06-10-2004, 11:52 PM

On Fri, 11 Jun 2004 03:33:50 GMT, "Claire Petersky"
<[Only registered and activated users can see links. ]> wrote:

>
>Yeah. One of my thoughts is that the kids will be in a drama production the
>two weeks before RSVP, so he'll have another opportunity to do extra riding,
>while they're in rehearsal. He still has a chance of doing the necessary
>training. August is still a ways off.

August!? That's over 60 training days and 600miles!! No problem.

-B
Let us know how the ride goes, details, we want details. ;-p

06-10-2004, 11:52 PM

On Fri, 11 Jun 2004 03:33:50 GMT, "Claire Petersky"
<[Only registered and activated users can see links. ]> wrote:

>
>Yeah. One of my thoughts is that the kids will be in a drama production the
>two weeks before RSVP, so he'll have another opportunity to do extra riding,
>while they're in rehearsal. He still has a chance of doing the necessary
>training. August is still a ways off.

August!? That's over 60 training days and 600miles!! No problem.

-B
Let us know how the ride goes, details, we want details. ;-p

06-10-2004, 11:52 PM

On Fri, 11 Jun 2004 03:33:50 GMT, "Claire Petersky"
<[Only registered and activated users can see links. ]> wrote:

>
>Yeah. One of my thoughts is that the kids will be in a drama production the
>two weeks before RSVP, so he'll have another opportunity to do extra riding,
>while they're in rehearsal. He still has a chance of doing the necessary
>training. August is still a ways off.

August!? That's over 60 training days and 600miles!! No problem.

-B
Let us know how the ride goes, details, we want details. ;-p

06-10-2004, 11:52 PM

On Fri, 11 Jun 2004 03:33:50 GMT, "Claire Petersky"
<[Only registered and activated users can see links. ]> wrote:

>
>Yeah. One of my thoughts is that the kids will be in a drama production the
>two weeks before RSVP, so he'll have another opportunity to do extra riding,
>while they're in rehearsal. He still has a chance of doing the necessary
>training. August is still a ways off.

August!? That's over 60 training days and 600miles!! No problem.

-B
Let us know how the ride goes, details, we want details. ;-p

06-11-2004, 05:03 AM

In article <yV6yc.1963$zz.1825@attbi_s04>, [Only registered and activated users can see links. ]
says...

....

> d. Just do the Flying Wheels full 100 mile loop, and not worry about him at
> all. I have friends I can ride with, let him register and get himself down
> there to ride, even if it's later in the morning, if that's what he wants to
> do.

This is the option I'd recommend. He's a big boy and should be able to
take care of himself. Maybe it will be a wakeup call for him to get on
the stick for the bigger ride later on.

.....

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06-11-2004, 05:03 AM

In article <yV6yc.1963$zz.1825@attbi_s04>, [Only registered and activated users can see links. ]
says...

....

> d. Just do the Flying Wheels full 100 mile loop, and not worry about him at
> all. I have friends I can ride with, let him register and get himself down
> there to ride, even if it's later in the morning, if that's what he wants to
> do.

This is the option I'd recommend. He's a big boy and should be able to
take care of himself. Maybe it will be a wakeup call for him to get on
the stick for the bigger ride later on.

.....

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06-11-2004, 05:03 AM

In article <yV6yc.1963$zz.1825@attbi_s04>, [Only registered and activated users can see links. ]
says...

....

> d. Just do the Flying Wheels full 100 mile loop, and not worry about him at
> all. I have friends I can ride with, let him register and get himself down
> there to ride, even if it's later in the morning, if that's what he wants to
> do.

This is the option I'd recommend. He's a big boy and should be able to
take care of himself. Maybe it will be a wakeup call for him to get on
the stick for the bigger ride later on.

.....

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06-11-2004, 05:03 AM

In article <yV6yc.1963$zz.1825@attbi_s04>, [Only registered and activated users can see links. ]
says...

....

> d. Just do the Flying Wheels full 100 mile loop, and not worry about him at
> all. I have friends I can ride with, let him register and get himself down
> there to ride, even if it's later in the morning, if that's what he wants to
> do.

This is the option I'd recommend. He's a big boy and should be able to
take care of himself. Maybe it will be a wakeup call for him to get on
the stick for the bigger ride later on.

.....

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